Starlene Patterson

The Great Compromise Starlene Patterson

The Great Compromise is a refreshing relationship book that focuses on improvement. When people start new relationships they tend to bring past baggage into them both knowingly and unknowingly. The relationship can start out good in the honeymoon period but over time the issues in the baggage such as Selfishness, Jealousy, Lying, Manipulation etc. start to unpack itself and begin to fracture the once promising relationship. Of course no one is perfect which means the relationship won't be perfect but all relationships have the potential to grow if both individuals are willing to do the work. That work involves an honest assessment of one's self and the willingness to compromise without forgetting who you are for the greater good of the relationship. Patterson's book will inspire others to do whatever it takes to achieve a healthy relationship. Each subject requires one to look inside themselves. For instance, this example from "Controlling" topic reads, "When you constantly impose your will on others and you are determined to get your way by any means necessary, you are controlling. It's one thing for a person to voluntarily comply with you and it's another thing for a person to comply out of fear or intimidation. Within a relationship a person should feel safe and free to just be themselves." After each topic you might find yourself asking these questions, "Have I ever done this in a relationship? Am I still doing it? Why haven't I stop doing it? How can I stop doing it? What are the steps do I need to take?" The Great Compromise is straight forward and empowering, it may not be for everyone but it's for those who want to build a meaningful relationship.